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Real Housewives New Jersey Jackie Goldschneider Enjoys her Family

Celebrity Real Housewives of New Jersey star, Jackie Goldschneider revels in the holiday excitement. Family, food, festivities, and fun. They are the four factors of good living.

In a recent interview, Jackie, a proud mother, wife and parent exclaimed, “It’s a very big year for my children. Alexis and Hudson will be graduating fifth grade and going to middle school which is just unbelievable to me because I feel like they’re still babies.”

How do you feel about 2021? In that year, we didn’t have much for which to look forward. Many states were still in lockdown modes, exercising at the local gym, dining at eat-in restaurants, shopping at nearby mom and pop retail stores, and bar hopping at local pubs were activities often curtailed. But, think about it. Family is where it’s at. If 2021 didn’t show us this, I am not sure what could have.

Jackie Goldschneider, star cast member of the Housewives of New Jersey teaches us the importance of putting family first.

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The Developmental Psychology Journal, Frontiers in Psychology conducted a survey of almost 250 families. The purpose of the study was to identify the factors related to healthy functioning of families during the COVID-19 epidemic. Even though the participants in the study were not high status or wealthy like the stars of the Housewives of New Jersey, much useful information can be gleamed. Here are the highlights:

  • Even though parents reported more economic stressors during the COVID-19 pandemic than before the global crisis, moms and dads observed that their kids Mothers and fathers who reported more economic stressors since the pandemic also observed that their children behaved more positively and were more helpful.
  • As expected, the stress brought about by the COVID-19 pandemic caused moms and dads to experience heightened mental health difficulties than before the global health pandemic.
  • Parents were less engaged with their children. This led to the kid’s expressing an increase in maladaptive behaviors than prior to the Coronavirus.

Jackie Goldschneider, star of the Real Housewives of New Jersey provides a model for which to emulate. There appears to be evidenced-based research to support her stance.

  • Parents who maintained a bright outlook, positive mental attitude and were optimistic in spite of the chaos brought about by COVID- 19 reported feeling less depressed and stressed.
  • Mothers and fathers who routinely communicated hope for the future and high expectations of their children impacted the attitudes of their kids. It was observed that the kids of positive parents mirrored positivity by exhibiting more prosocial behaviors.

Were their any gender differences when examining the impact of COVID-19 on parenting styles? The research says, “yes.”

  • Moms and dads who adopted a co-parenting style were found to be more engaged with their children leading to more helpful behaviors of their children.
  • Elevated levels of parent positivity, cheerfulness, and enthusiasm during the pandemic served as protective factors for the mothers; meaning the moms of children experienced less mental health difficulties related to the economic stress that the pandemic induced.
  • High levels of co-parenting support during the pandemic were protective for the fathers; meaning the dads of kids experienced less mental health difficulties related to the economic stress that the pandemic induced.

So, for anyone out there in the physical world who believes or supports the notion that the celebrity lives of stars of the Real Housewives of New Jersey provide no societal value. You are wrong. Each star can serve as models for other wives, moms and daughters to aspire. As with anything, we much cull through the good and the bad to find the true gem.

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Teresa Giudice, star Real Housewives of New Jersey and Joe Giudice, ex-husband

In Season 12 of the Real Housewives of New Jersey, Teresa Giudice told her co-stars that she and her family were going to move in with her boyfriend Luis Ruelas and his family.  Teresa has four children with her former husband Joe Giudice. They are all girls: Gia, Gabriella, Audriana and Milania.  At one time or another, each of her four daughters have appeared on the Real Housewives of New Jersey tv show. Teresa was married to JoeGiudice  from 1999 to 2019. Joe has been out of the family picture as he is still being deported to Italy and has been unable to re-enter the U.S. to see his family.

As the family drama related to deportation was occurring, Teresa met Luis Ruelas. Luis has two children, David and Louie Jr with his former wife, Marisa DiMartino. Teresa Giudice just announced recently that she and Luis were going to have a blended family.  

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The Giudice and Ruelas families are not unique in this regard. The U.S. Census reports that about 16% of all children in the US live in a “blended family” situation. The term blended family implies that the family members living under one household includes a  stepparent, stepsibling or half-sibling. This figure is estimated to be higher than the 8% of children who live with a step parent and slightly higher than 12% who live with stepsiblings (step brothers and step sisters) or half siblings. Please see Pew Research Series, The American Family Today, December 17, 2015 for additional information.

Real Housewives of New Jersey Potential Stressors of Blended Family

Even though it is rather common place to be a member of a blended family or to raise your child in a blended family situation, Good Therapy identifies the following stressors.

  1. The parenting styles differ from one parent to the other,
  2. The variations of step family/biological family routines,
  3. The conflicts revolving around visitation rules,
  4. The ongoing disagreements between the separated parents and/or stepparents,
  5. The potential conflict and uncertainty surrounding new stepsiblings,
  6. The time needed for each stepsibling to adapt to the conditions of the blended family varies from child to child,
  7. The inability to let go, or to continue to hang on to expectation of maintaining strong bonds with the separated family member(s),
  8. The struggle to manage grief, feelings of abandonment, and other strong emotions during periods of separation,
  9. The demand for new parents and/or step parents to transition into a new parenting role rather quickly, and
  10. The potential for conflict related to rivalry may arise when close bonds with the separated family member is maintained.

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In spite of the challenges posed by blended family relationships, these families can work out. They prove to be resilient and can last a long time, particularly with a few of these recommendations from the American Psychological Association in mind.

  1. Resolve financial and visitation arrangements prior to initiating a new living situation.
  2. Clear your heart and mind of all grievances against the former partner.
  3. Determine, prior to the initiation of a new living arrangement, the role each partner will play in child rearing.
  4. Consider developing a list of household rules: those that are negotiable and rules that are non-negotiable.
  5. Offer verbal recognition, praise, and affection as an effective and early method for establishing new relationships with stepchildren.
  6. Maintain special activities and participate in special events as the separated partner so that the child will lessen his/her feelings of grief and abandonment.
  7. Refrain from speaking ill of the separated partner in front of the children.

Considering the stressors and the recommendations to mitigate and prevent them, James Bray, PhD, a researcher and clinician at the Department of Family Medicine, Baylor College of Medicine estimates that, “under the best conditions, it may take two to four years for a new stepfamily to adjust to living together.”

Resources

American Psychological Association, Making Stepfamilies Work, August 23, 2019.
Good Therapy, Blended Family Issues, April 8, 2020.
Pew Research Series, The American Family Today, December 17, 2015.

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Teresa Giudice, star of the Real Housewives of New Jersey reality tv series knows a little about overdue bills and bankruptcy. Court fillings in 2020 showed that Teresa Giudice and Joe Giudice, her former husband filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy at the U.S. Bankruptcy Court in Newark, N.J. Chapter 7 bankruptcy proceedings require that the filers liquidate their assets to pay creditors for outstanding bills. Although a successful Chapter 7 bankruptcy allows the filers to make a fresh new start in life, Teresa Giudice seems to be entangled in yet another man with weak financial underpinnings.

One of the headlining stars of the Real Housewives Bravo franchise, Teresa Giudice’s fiancé, Luis Ruelas is being sued for failure to pay $113,000 in debts to a vendor that provided services to his company. Presently, Luis Relas, is filing for $1M bankruptcy.

Luis proposed to Teresa in October 2021. And she accepted his proposal of marriage. But Teresa Giudice, in spite of the promises of a fresh new start that the previous bankruptcy filing afforded her, and her divorce. Seems like the clutches of poor financial management hasn’t loosened its iron grip.

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We’ve got real housewives tips for you. Real Housewives of New Jersey celebrities notwithstanding, you don’t have to be a reality superstar housewife to succumb to the financial pressures related to economic downturns, shutdowns, lockouts and inflation. We have all been filling the pinch.

A bankrupt financial situation does not define you. Take the example of Teresa Giudice. She just keeps on going. Not that she is throwing her cares to the wind. Rather, she keeps living her life, thriving with adventure and bustling with passion.

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Perhaps Teresa Giudice, star of the Real Housewives of New Jersey received some advice from others who have experienced economic hard times. The following real housewives tips can help you weather the torrents of any financial storm.

  1. Refrain from taking it personal. Sh!t happens. Life happens.
  2. Focus on things within your control (your attitude, health, emotional wellbeing, etc).
  3. Analyze your buying patterns with increasing scrutiny.
  4. Refrain from using consumer spending as an emotional crutch.
  5. Prioritize relationships that bring you happiness and joy.
  6. Refrain from emotional and physical withdrawal from life. Roll with the punches. When the going gets rough, the tough gets tougher.
  7. Steer clear of negative people who think negatively, complain constantly and are an energy drain.
  8. Consider expanding your social network.
  9. Exercise regularly, eat healthier foods, and lead a healthier lifestyle.
  10. Adopt mindful techniques to detox your mind from dysfunctional habits (emotional spending, emotional eating), for instance.
  11. Refrain from overly generalizing your temporary situational setback to permanent failure.

Look at the experience of Teresa Giuidce, star of the Real Housewives of New Jersey. Her first bankruptcy did not dim her flame. “I’m from Patterson”, she has said. She has taken all in stride and keeps on dishing and kicking. Maybe we should do the same.

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