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Real Housewives of RHOC keep infidelity secret

Heather Dubrow, reality tv star of the Real Housewives of Orange County has shown that she has the composure to keep a secret, until she is challenged by her frenemy, Shannon Beador, that is. Seems like there was a lot of dishing during the RHOC Reunion trailer.

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During a RHOC reunion trailer, Heather Dubrow yelled at Shannon Beador, her cast mate of the Real Housewives of Orange County Bravo franchise, “I could have blown up your family. I knew David was having an affair. By the way, you knew David was having an affair?”

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Cast members of the Real Housewives Bravo franchise are not alone. Shannon Beador and her husband, David met while both attended college at the University of Southern California (USC). They eventually became college sweethearts and later stayed married for 17 years. The broke up in 2017 and dissolved their marriage two years later.

The Real Housewives Tips for You

Common everyday married women as well as reality tvy stars like Shannon Beador, celebrity cast member of the Real Housewives of Orange County, dread with great apprehension and even fear to hear the utterance of these phrases from their partner and/or long term mate:

  • I need more space.
  • I don’t love you anymore.
  • I am seeing someone else.
  • I want a divorce.

What is dreaded even more, perhaps is when the jilted wife finds out from her bestie, frenemy or close associate that her husband’s infidelity was known all along.

As bad as the wronged wife (Shannon Beador) may feel about her husband’s cheating, just think of the predicament her bestfriend or frenemy (Heather Dubrow) has to live through and process.

According to relationship expert quoted in the NYTimes, a friend who has discovered that her friend’s husband is cheating with another woman needs to answer these questions. In so doing, they can determine the best course of action.

  • Are you emotionally close enough to your friend or frenemy to feel that she is entitled to find out the bad news from you? Maybe Heather Dubrow did not feel as though she was considered a true confidant or trustworthy, so she kept silent on Shannon Beador’s husband’s affair.
  • Would your friend or frenemy expect you to tell her? Maybe Heather Dubrow isn’t in Shannon Beador’s tight circle, so there were no expectations.
  • Would you feel confident knowing that you are shouldering some of the blame for a marriage destroyed? Perhaps Heather Dubrow rationalized that keeping silent and using the strategy ‘see no evil, hear no evil’ is the best approach. Why get involved if you do not know all of the details?

In closing, the relationship suggested that it is probably best for the friend to inform the spouse of her husband’s infidelity. Why? Because the friend/frenemy (Heather Dubrow) is disempowering Shannon Beador by failing to inform her. To paraphrase, Heather Debrow should have told Shannon Beador so that the ball would be in her court. “By protecting her from the truth, you would be taking a decision that rightly belongs to her.”